There is no logical reason for me, Cheri Hardaway, to be where I am today. Thanks to my self-sufficient ways, by my late teens I was abusing alcohol, flirting with drug use, and looking for love in all the wrong places. Odds favored my self-destruction, except for the mercy and grace of God. When Jesus Christ comes in contact with a life, He changes the odds; He breathes new life into barren and dead places. I know. He did it in my life.Fast forward a couple decades and I'm married with teens of my own. Hubby and I taught them about Christ, their Savior, determined to spare them the heartaches we'd inflicted on ourselves in our own youth. But mere knowledge was not enough. Religious education cannot impart spiritual life; it can only point the way to the One who can.
It was a bleak day when I sat in my nineteen-year-old son's bedroom, the evidence square in my face. He was using, had been for some time. All our talk, all our plans, all our rules ~ for nought. All our well-meaning attempts to keep him innocent and perfect had failed. I sat there rocking and sobbing for I don't know how long. I had no more ideas. I had no pride. I was broken before God. Anguished, I cried out to Him:
He's yours, God. You've got to take care of this. I tried. I failed. It's hopeless. He's lost his way. If You don't do something, he'll be dead.
I imagine my grief was not unlike the mother scripture tells us about in Luke 7:11-17. I love verses 14 and 15 in particular:
14 Then he walked over to the coffin and touched it, and the bearers stopped. “Young man,” he said, “I tell you, get up.” 15 Then the dead boy sat up and began to talk! And Jesus gave him back to his mother.
This son was literally dead: D-E-A-D. The odds were even more against him than they were against my own son, yet when Jesus came on the scene and touched the situation, He changed the odds. He brought life into the midst of certain death. He made a way where there seemed no way (Isaiah 41:18). He did this in our son's life too; he gave our son back to his mother. While at Teen Challenge, our son gave his life to Christ. God turned everything around.
My husband Wayne and I ventured into the world of blogging in December 2008, with hearts set on encouraging families; in particular, parents who are finding themselves, like we did, members of a club they thought they'd never join: the addiction-is-bent-on-ruining-our-lives club. Here in cyberspace we have connected with and grown to love families who we lift in prayer on a daily basis. God has also brought some local families into our circle for prayer and encouragement. And God has united us with prayer partners who pray for all of us, as well.
If you are a prayer warrior, please add the families below to your prayer list. (I share them as they are known to me, some more anonymous than others. We don't need details to pray; God knows all that needs to be known.) If they have a blog of their own of which I am aware, I'll list their names as a link to their blog, so those who want to drop by and leave a word of encouragement may do so. And if you are reading this post and want to request prayer for yourself or your family, please email me at: thehardaways@bellsouth.net.
- KB and her son M
- Sherry and son J
- Lisa and son Bryan, and her niece
- Athena and her daughter
- Debby and her husband, C, Debby's son B, and B's dad
- B, her husband, L, their daughter and two sons
- Barbara and her son Keven
- Dad and Mom and their son A
- Angie and her son Randan
- C, her husband, T, and her son and daughter
- W, her husband, D, and their son B
- Janet and her daughter Alecia
- Renee and her son
- ChaiLatte and her son
- Sherry C and her husband, and their son C
- Annette and her daughter H
- Treava and her 24-year-old daughter
- "Fractal Mom" and her daughter
- Mom and her daughter Heather
- Jenni and her husband, their three sons and a daughter
- "Her Big Sad" and her daughter
- Lou and her husband, Gary, and their son Andrew
- Mom and her son Greg
- P and her daughter, a heroin addict
- Tina and her husband, Anthony, and their daughter
- Mom and her daughter Kelly
- C and his family
- The D family and their son
- C's son, 21, struggling with alcohol abuse
- Christina and her son Jackson
- The Martin family
- Gail, son Bob, granddaughter Alex, and their family
- Johanna and her family
- Madyson and her family
- Mom and her daughter Jo Lynn, an alcoholic
- Kay and her family
- Carol M. and her family
- Nora and her family
- Cindy and her daughter Sunny
- Renee and her family
- J-M B and family
- Courtney and her family
- CC and her son
- Tori and her son
- Carolyn and her daughter H
- Daisy and her son Jack
- One Pill Away from Chaos
- Panic Monster
- Kristi and her son Jacob
- Abbie and her family
To each of you, our friends, near and far, we want to leave you with two thoughts. 1) Prayer brings God into your situation. We saw from the testimony in Luke that once God is in a circumstance, no matter how badly it appears the odds are stacked against you, you are not without hope; miracles can happen. 2) We also have another powerful weapon in our arsenal, and that weapon is praise. In 2 Chronicles 20, there is an account of a great army coming against God's people. There are two verses we need to take note of:
15 And he said, “Listen, all you of Judah and you inhabitants of Jerusalem, and you, King Jehoshaphat! Thus says the LORD to you: ‘Do not be afraid nor dismayed because of this great multitude, for the battle is not yours, but God’s.
22 Now when they began to sing and to praise, the LORD set ambushes against the people of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir, who had come against Judah; and they were defeated.
Praise undoes our enemy and his plans and plots against us and our loved ones!
We are praying. Others are praying for us. Now we need to praise and watch God move and victory come into our lives.
Here's a song to get us started:
May God bless each and every one of you,
Cheri and Wayne
22 comments:
As the mother of an almost 21-year-old who is drifting in his faith, I appreciate so much your willingness to share your story and to be honest and open. It's so painful that we cannot inject our faith into our children. It's good to have the fellowship of others who understand the weight of this matter. Press on! Lori
You have managed to hit home... yet again. Seems you're just really good at that. Maybe you should have signed on with a pro softball team??? :)
I am a mother of 3 grown children, 26, 24, and 19. The oldest is a prime example of your same situation. She got into some pretty bad drugs and truly terrible situations. But today... oh, the things God has done with her still brings me to tears of awe. I remember saying, "Okay, Lord. My hands are tied behind my back. She's Yours. Help me let You have her." The changes He made in her are... well... 100% doesn't quite cut it.
And now, I am in a similar type situation with my 24 yr old daughter. Please add me/her to your prayer list?
As for the 19 yr old... I don't guess it is any easier to hand them over to their Father when they're chronically ill... "one foot always in the grave" so to speak... than it is when they're living wayward lives. Had to give my boy up to the Lord more times than I care to count. But oh my... what only God can do!!! He is a walking, living, breathing, talking testimony to the goodness and power of a Living God.
Many, many kudos to you, my friend, for the work the Lord has placed in your capable hands. God bless you so richly!
Amen! Jesus changes the odds! Love this post, Cheri...
I will be back later tonight and visit these links you have given and add this list of families to uplift in prayer...
I have always loved this song by Russ Taff...it was very popular when my first born was just a baby...the truths expressed in it are as vital today as they were back then...
Thank you for sharing these encouraging words!
Lori, hang in there. Adding you and your dear son to our prayers!
Treava, thank you for sharing your testimony regarding your oldest daughter and God's faithfulness. And we are happy to add you and your 24-year-old daughter to our prayer list, along with your sweet son and his health.
Karen, the lyrics to Praise the Lord ran through my head for days after I wrote this post. What power there is in that! Thank you for joining us in prayer!
Ladies, you are all a blessing to me! Sending hugs to you,
Cheri
Cheri,
I just sent you an email, but wanted to thank you here, as well- for your prayers and support to all of us hurting families. Your support is amazing, and greatly appreciated!
God Bless and hugs,
~C
Thank you, Cheri and Wayne, for your prayers. I raised Keven in the church and he asked to be baptized when he was 12. Since then I sort of walked away from my faith but am slowly coming back. I want that hope again. I am praying for it.
Thank you Cheri - and all - for your thoughts and prayers.
Athena
ChaiLatte, I received your email, but haven't yet had a chance to reply personally. It is truly our privilege to share the hope and comfort God has given us in the midst of our own hurts and pain.
Barbara, we will join you in your prayer that you once again find hope in your faith, as well as prayers for Keven's recovery and freedom from addiction.
Athena, you are so very welcome.
Be encouraged all,
Cheri and Wayne
Cheri -
Your love, compassion and faith come through your writing and touch me! Thank you for your prayers!
Love,
Sherry
Sherry,
You are so very welcome! And your comment has blessed me beyond words. My heart's desire - both hubby's and mine - is to extend hope and love to hurting families. We've been there. It's hard. And it was people rallying alongside us that helped pull us through; we want to be that for others now.
Blessings,
Cheri
Oh. I'm choking back tears. What a beautiful post. Yes, you are right. You have really touched my heart, today. My past is similar to yours. God has cleansed it all away.
Thank you so much for reminding me of that scripture. I never stopped to see that these beautiful words are Jesus giving our kids back to us.
You have lifted my spirits tremendously. Thank you for your prayers. Thank you.
My tears are a combination of sorrow, joy, healing and Christ's love.
Thank you.
Debby,
I am so blessed that this post ministered to you. I cannot take credit for seeing that verse that way; our pastor spoke on that recently, and it really touched me, for the same reason it touched you! I just had to post it to give that same hope to my friends who are traveling the same desert road that our family has walked.
I so much want to hug all of you when I read about what's happening in your lives. I doubt that we'll meet this side of heaven, so I content myself with "hugging" each of you with the words God gives.
Love, hugs, and prayers being sent your way,
Cheri and Wayne
Oh powerful this devotional was..it brought tears to my eyes Cheri...I am just sitting here holding back the sobs..sobs of joy that God IS good...I too have cried out to our Father as you did for my own son, and Randan IS God's...and the good work that God started in my son's life, God WILL complete...amen amen amen
Agreeing with you in prayer for Randan's deliverance, Angela! He is so good! Hugs, Cheri
Thanks Cheri for directing me to this post. It is full of hope. Thanks for that.
Annette,
You are most welcome. Know that you and your daughter remain in our prayers.
God hugs,
Cheri
Please do add us to your prayer list. I do believe in the power of prayer. My entire family is in desperate need of some caring and prayer. Bless you.
MSB, consider it done! Hang in there!
Cheri and Wayne
I just noticed how old this page is...I hope I can still get added to the prayer list. I'll be celebrating 20 years in recovery, as of Thanksgiving; my husband is also recovering. My eldest son, while not using (yet) that I know of, is taking a decidedly self-destructive approach to his life, now that he's away at college. My younger son is struggling with the declining health of his Dad's health due to Hep C and cirrhosis. Please, remind the Father of our family when you think of it. Thanks.
Abbie,
No, ma'am, it's not too late! I'll be adding you to our prayer list here, and having our prayer team be in prayer for you and your family! Praising the Lord for you and your husband's recoveries, and praying for you and your sons!
Blessings!
Cheri
Hey Cheri
I am encouraged by your blog and wanted to reconnect with you!
I fondly remember our Bible studies together when our children were crawling all over us in our living rooms! These days it's my beautiful grandchildren, aren't they a joy?
I'm looking forward to catching up with you and your family.
Miss ya~
Becky
Becky!
How wonderful to hear from you!! I remember those days too! So sweet!
I was with one of my little grandbabies this afternoon. We took Chelsea's little one to Chuck E. Cheese's for the first time!
Looking forward to reconnecting!
Cheri
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